Recently I was in the theater waiting in the lounge for the start of the movie . At the ticket office I saw a man and woman. While waiting for the tickets the man danced so playfully and lively on the background music. Nice to see and at the same time I felt uncomfortable with such public playfulness! It gave me the start of this article: vitally dancing or unhappy for the whole day?
Playfulness is a sign of inner freedom. In a natural way you are in contact with your liveliness , interests and creativity .
Question: How much do you experience an inner freedom on a scale of 1-10 ?
Back to the dancing man: his dancing is a mirror for me . What does this mirror say about my awkwardness ? Do I want ‘to dance’ my life? Firstly I rather see dancing people instead of impatient grumpy people in the queue! Secondly, I rather dance instead of being frustrated and unhappy all day! Every moment I can make this choice. There are always circumstances that give frustration, pain and unhappy feelings. Yet it is not the circumstances , but my inner attitude and choice: I make a for lightness and to 'dance' my life .
During childhood spontaneity and playfulness become increasingly covered with inner obstacles, children's pains and responsibilities. This limits the spontaneous flow of life. Limiting playfulness and spontaneity have another effect: special talents also become covered or cut off. Special talents and abilities that parents and others don’t want to see. These talents are often pure, raw and unpolished. The "civilized adult world” often finds it hard to see the right value of these talents.
We might hear something like: "Don’t act so childish! You are too big for that!” Big chance that this adult has tucked away his or her own playfulness and spontaneity long ago. Or maybe we hear yourselves suddenly saying something like that! Yes kids can be interesting and confronting mirrors.
Question : How do you limit your own playfulness and spontaneity nowadays?
If you know how you limit yourself you also have the key to make more space for your liveliness and spontaneity and ‘dance’ your life more freely!
Playfulness contributes to vitality , and vice versa. Playfulness and laughter gives relaxation and this contributes to your vitality. When you tired, stressed and exhausted aliveness and playfulness is hard to find. A vital person radiates something: energy, enthusiasm , inspiration , vitality . This makes you even more visible in who you really are. And life will return something: useful contacts, a life partner, new opportunities in the work , meetings with cheerful and lively people, surprises.
Goodbye! I love to meet you while waiting and dancing in front of a ticket office of the movie theater!